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Before jumping into someone else's mentions:

βœ… Am I being contrarian?
βœ… Do I already have a relationship with this person, or am I being inappropriately familiar?
βœ… Am I "ironically" doing exactly what this person just said not to do?
βœ… Am I derailing another legitimate discussion in order to get on my own favourite hobby-horse or to one-up this person in my knowledge of social issues?
βœ… Am I saying "Are you surprised?" when they're disappointed?
βœ… Am I providing unsolicited advice?

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βœ… Am I judging them when they were having harmless fun?

("I'm surprised you xxxx...")

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@bgcarlisle ...oh crud now I'm worried I did the thing.

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@bgcarlisle I really wonder why some people post in public and then complain because people they don't know interact. I mean, it's normal not to be an asshole and follow some of the points you've given, but well, I'm just interacting on a public post, not trying to sneak into a private conversation

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@bgcarlisle I never know if I’m the perp... :?

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@bgcarlisle The check boxes seem to suggest that I need to do all of those things? 😳

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@bgcarlisle But... isn't that counter-intuitive? πŸ™ƒ

Sorry to be the contrarian here!

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@sajith @bgcarlisle "check off at least 1, get 1 free cup β˜• of stfu"

but srsly i like this, the positive framing encourages the reader to go through the entire list by force of habit

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@bgcarlisle
also: am i about to explain this person's points back to them as though i am teaching them something?

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@bgcarlisle

I only reply to people if I can help them out by explaining a fact I just learned from the very first google result about the thing they've been talking about all afternoon.

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@bgcarlisle I keep wanting to boost this every time I see it, forgetting it already boosted it.

Here we go again :)

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