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Before jumping into someone else's mentions:
✅ Am I being contrarian?
✅ Do I already have a relationship with this person, or am I being inappropriately familiar?
✅ Am I "ironically" doing exactly what this person just said not to do?
✅ Am I derailing another legitimate discussion in order to get on my own favourite hobby-horse or to one-up this person in my knowledge of social issues?
✅ Am I saying "Are you surprised?" when they're disappointed?
✅ Am I providing unsolicited advice?
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@bgcarlisle ...oh crud now I'm worried I did the thing.
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@aldersprig No, you're fine :)
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@bgcarlisle phew!
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@bgcarlisle I never know if I’m the perp... :?
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@Bluedepth Not with me at least!
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@bgcarlisle The check boxes seem to suggest that I need to do all of those things? 😳
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@sajith Yes, check them off when you have thought about each one
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@bgcarlisle But... isn't that counter-intuitive? 🙃
Sorry to be the contrarian here!
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@sajith @bgcarlisle "check off at least 1, get 1 free cup ☕ of stfu"
but srsly i like this, the positive framing encourages the reader to go through the entire list by force of habit
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@bgcarlisle
also: am i about to explain this person's points back to them as though i am teaching them something?
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I only reply to people if I can help them out by explaining a fact I just learned from the very first google result about the thing they've been talking about all afternoon.
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@bgcarlisle I keep wanting to boost this every time I see it, forgetting it already boosted it.
Here we go again :)
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@bgcarlisle I’ve started asking people if they want advice on things and it’s such a much better way to do things
They don’t get a wall of text they don’t want and I don’t stress myself out trying to “solve” a “problem”
Good tips, thanks for sharing
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@Ethancdavenport Glad to hear it! I wrote these out to remind myself as much as to be a reminder for others, so I'm glad they help you
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@bgcarlisle People are happy to do 1, 2, and 6 when replying to me.
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✅ Am I judging them when they were having harmless fun?
("I'm surprised you xxxx...")