Block and mute early
Block and mute often
Do it for reasons that are entirely "selfish"
No one is entitled to your attention
There will not be a test
Nothing bad happens if you don't hear them
Too many techbros? Mute 'em all
That one guy's jokes need a CW? Your timeline can be full of other stuff
You can even mute that one person's boosts while keeping their posts
It's not censorship; you're not hurting that person
And you don't ever need to explain it or tell anyone
And lemme tell you
The mutes that I have appreciated the most over time are the ones where I took a "big" account or domain on Masto out of my feed
Because it frees up so much "space" for me to hear other voices
If you think you're starting to feel like you don't like the Fediverse
Maybe you just don't like [Big Account]?
My own personal rule (that I break sometimes, but whatevs you're not the boss of me):
I click "mute conversation" after the *first* Reply Guy and I don't look back
If it's the kind of thing where it attracts That Kind of Attention, nothing good will come of me listening to them explaining my joke to me or well-actuallying me, or giving me unsolicited advice
Last thought on this I promise
(Until I need to bang this drum again; it's something we need to be reminded about periodically)
Anyone who non-ironically uses the term "echo chamber" to describe people doing self-care is a troll who you can safely block and mute
It's a big jump to go from the legit observation that echo chambers exist, i.e. "right-wing trolls only listen to other fashy people" all the way over to "and that's why you must listen to every reply guy"
@bgcarlisle I read a post similar to this when I first joined fedi and it helped me kill the anxious and stressed twitter user in my brain So Much. ❤
@Tooch I hope you're relaxed and happier, friend!!
@bgcarlisle it did! And inversely it also helped me actively approach and engage with other users more. Twitter definitely feels more stratified because "popular" posters are (understandably) less likely to even read their notifications let alone reply to the hundreds of people trying to piggyback off their jokes for trickle-down notes. 🙄
@bgcarlisle A quote from Popehat comes to mind:
"I am consistently amused by the concept that if you don't want to hang out with trolls and assholes, you have thin skin. This seems to flow from the trolls' and assholes' sense of entitlement to be talked to. But life is short. Why spend it with people like that?"
@bgcarlisle blocking someone doesn't mean you're a bad person, and it doesn't necessarily mean they're a bad person either. If someone posts stuff you're not here to see, block em. You don't need them, they don't need you, so why stress over it?
A silly misinterpretation I almost had
@bgcarlisle i really thought this was about asynchronicity and blocking in a programming sense before I opened this 😂
@bgcarlisle You're reading my mind.
I came over to #Mastodon about a year and a half or so ago; nearly a decade of previous experience on Twitter gave me a no-shit-taking attitude and an itchy Block Finger. I learned very quickly to not bother muting on Twitter, but to just go whole hog and straight-up block 'em if they stick in my craw. I brought that attitude with me to Mastodon and it's done me really well.
re: On blocking
@bgcarlisle thank u!
re: On blocking
@demisapiens You're free! Be happy, friend!!
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