Grief is selfish.
This is not inherently a bad thing, but it's true.
The person who left is gone.
In my case, forever.
It is right and just to honor their memory, but that memory is a part of YOU, not THEM. It's what YOU remember. They're not here to do it for you.
Grief is your body crying out for a connection that is no longer there. It is about what YOU miss.
Grief is selfish, but sometimes you need to be just a bit selfish in order to heal.
Or so I'm told.
I'm still working on that.