I'm queer. I love the word because to me it expresses the defiant spirit of LGBTQIA+ that I am most proud of when I march in pride.
It's not a word for everyone, and you don't need to use it to be defiant, you can be defiant while deciding for yourself what to call yourself instead of taking old slurs and turning them into armour as others do. It's all good tbh. Don't tell me I shouldn't be proud of my queerness, because you know what I tell cishets who tell me that and it has rude words in it